I don’t write much anymore about my personal story, or the insights gathered from my 7 years of facilitating a separation support group, but I feel that maybe I should. I think it provides useful info...
Oct
2014
07
You have been divorced for 6 years. Your parenting plan did an excellent job of identifying when each of you would be the “active” parent and spend time with your kids. It set out how you were going to parent, how you would handle holidays, expenses and how you as parents would make changes to the plan.
Surprise, surprise, your 15 year old has decided that your parenting plan no longer works for him/her. Did you discuss during your separation how you would handle changes that were initiated by your children?
Aug
2014
22
As a mediator and separation coach I hear this statement all of the time “this isn’t fair”.
As a person who went through a nasty divorce I myself thought many times “this isn’t fair”.
What is fair though? Fair to whom? Fairness is subjective and we each have our own idea of fairness. What I think is fair to me, may not what you think is fair.
I read this quote today and I thought it was very appropriate for this blog post,
“Fairness is protecting not only you but all who are involved.”
Well that is a tall order!
Protect yourself – Yup, got it.
Protect your kids – No problem there.
Protect your ex – Wait, what? No thank you.
Aug
2013
26
It may not be a popular stance but it is one that I whole-heartedly support. Lawyers participating in Family mediation meetings with their clients.
