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We hear it all of the time in the Divorce Industry – decisions should be made in the ‘Best interests of the Children”. Seems rather obvious right?
You and the other parent may have different opinions of what decisions are in your children’s best interest. You don’t agree and that’s ok. You were always going to disagree on some aspects of parenting even if you had stayed together.
You can both be looking out for your children’s best interests but believe that can be obtained in different ways. That doesn’t make either of your right or wrong, it’s just life.
Separation is change and how you manage it will dictate how successfully your children will get through it.
As a person who went through a nasty divorce I myself thought many times “this isn’t fair”.
What is fair though? Fair to whom? Fairness is subjective and we each have our own idea of fairness. What I think is fair to me, may not what you think is fair.
I read this quote today and I thought it was very appropriate for this blog post,
“Fairness is protecting not only you but all who are involved.”
Well that is a tall order!
Protect yourself – Yup, got it.
Protect your kids – No problem there.
Protect your ex – Wait, what? No thank you.
Divorce and keeping the house, an important factor in any divorce settlement.
You are getting separated, it doesn’t matter whether you are married or common-law, 30 or 55, things are about to change.
1 large piece of that change puzzle is the house. It’s the place where you shared your hopes and dreams and spent a great deal of time and money. You intended to raise your children there or did raise your children there. Let’s not forget that other than the pension it is usually one of a family’s greatest assets. What to do with the house is a big decision that you and your ex will need to make.
Should you keep it? It was your dream house after all and you didn’t kill this dream!
Maybe your ex should keep it? That way they will figure out how much time and money goes into maintaining it!
Sell the house? I can’t afford to keep it and if I can’t have it, neither can my ex!