DIVORCE Is A Big Commitment.

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Divorce is a big commitment. It’s January, the month that has been labeled “divorce month” so it makes sense to talk about just that, divorce and the commitment it takes to move forward with it. One d...

Whose DIVORCE is it anyways?

Whose DIVORCE is it anyways?

This is your divorce, I shouldn’t have to even ask this question. This blog stems from things that I hear daily in my mediation practice. It’s a frustration for me both personally and professionally a...

Divorce And The Holidays

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Family, food, friends, gifts, time off….what could be better? It really does sound like a recipe for a good time however many families find this time of the year to be very stressful as well. Ma...

Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt Divorce No Longer Public

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In a National Post article today I read that Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt have announced that they will now be handling their divorce privately, which I am so happy to hear. Read the article here: htt...

How Will Your Children Remember Your DIVORCE?

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Do you know the answer to the question – How will your children remember your divorce? It’s an important question and unless your children are very young they will remember it. If they are...

9 Tips To Bonding In A Blended Family

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Think it’s tough to bond in a blended family? You’re right it can be, but there are ways to make it easier. Due to the sheer number of divorced families it stands to reason that many coupl...

DIVORCE – You Don’t Know What You Don’t Know!

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Have you been divorced before? If not, you probably don’t know where to start or what to do! That is not uncommon. Divorce – You Don’t Know What You Don’t Know I was sitting in the...

Divorce: The Best Interests Of The Children…Or The Parents?

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We hear it all of the time in the Divorce Industry – decisions should be made in the ‘Best interests of the Children”. Seems rather obvious right?

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You and the other parent may have different opinions of what decisions are in your children’s best interest. You don’t agree and that’s ok. You were always going to disagree on some aspects of parenting even if you had stayed together.

You can both be looking out for your children’s best interests but believe that can be obtained in different ways. That doesn’t make either of your right or wrong, it’s just life.

Separation is change and how you manage it will dictate how successfully your children will get through it.

Can DIVORCE And FAIR Be Used In the Same Sentence?

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As a mediator and separation coach I hear this statement all of the time “this isn’t fair”.

As a person who went through a nasty divorce I myself thought many times “this isn’t fair”.

What is fair though? Fair to whom? Fairness is subjective and we each have our own idea of fairness. What I think is fair to me, may not what you think is fair.

Life is not fair

 

 

 

  I read this quote today and I thought it was very appropriate for this blog post,

“Fairness is protecting not only you but all who are involved.”

  Well that is a tall order!

  Protect yourself – Yup, got it.

  Protect your kids – No problem there.

  Protect your ex – Wait, what? No thank you.

 

Divorce – Should I Keep The House? Emotion vs. Logic

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Divorce and keeping the house, an important factor in any divorce settlement.

You are getting separated, it doesn’t matter whether you are married or common-law, 30 or 55, things are about to change.

1 large piece of that change puzzle is the house. It’s the place where you shared your hopes and dreams and spent a great deal of time and money. You intended to raise your children there or did raise your children there. Let’s not forget that other than the pension it is usually one of a family’s greatest assets. What to do with the house is a big decision that you and your ex will need to make.

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 Should you keep it? It was your dream house after all and you didn’t kill this  dream!

 Maybe your ex should keep it? That way they will figure out how much  time and money goes into maintaining it!

 Sell the house? I can’t afford to keep it and if I can’t have it, neither can my  ex!